wow. I'm finding that the food thing is really an issue for me. More than the tv one! I think i need therapy!!! or maybe just a slant in my perspective? I still feel so controlling and mean about sugar. It was ok for a while but then Rox got some 'symptoms' and of course i blame it on her food choices particularly her love of sugar. Why do I even blame? I get so mean...it's awful. The tendency to meaness over this is trying to tell me something but I haven't decoded it yet. I'm working on thinking about it differently - but I think I need to just slow down and chill out!!! I was reading on Always Learning tonight and there's generally something there that resonates with what's going on with us. Sandra Dodd mentioned stuff about rules. I think untimately I'm still stuck in following some rules. That is rules in my own head about what it is to whole life unschool. It is so easy to grab ideas and then twist them into a self inflicted rule especially with food issues and tv: Freedom of choice for foods. As many sweets as they want, whenever they want. Say yes to most things they ask for. (I'm using 'they' of course to talk about Rox and April. ) No mealtimes. (Hey that was funny - I actually mis-typed and originally typed "no meantimes" hmmm, my subconcious at work). No restrictions. Freedom. But all the above are really not the point! It's much more about kindness, thoughtfulness, gentleness.
We're a pretty exuberant, loud family, but I'm sure it's possible to be who we are at our core and still maintain a sense of peace and gentleness even amongst the noise and mess!! It's so much about mindset and perspective.
I love posts on Always Learning about personal choices... About choosing a positive perspective. Seeing things AS THEY ARE and being/working with that. Realizing that there are many, many options in every situation. That Life - my life and the lives of our family are being created now and now and now. That keeping the relationships within the family and lines of communication clear, loving, honest and real are of upper most importance to having a happy, joyful life.I think maybe that is what whole life unschooling is really about, but it's so easy to get bogged down. Maybe instead of trying to attain the label, I just need to focus on Darren and the girls (and myself!) What is it that we want our life to be? How do we relate? How does the way we relate affect what we want our life to be? What happens when we relate in the ways that we do? Does the way we relate to each other give us the life we each want? What would we prefer? What is it to really LIVE with each other ?? What do we each need?
There was a great thread recently that suddenly struck a glow of clarity with me. but later on in the midst of 'stuff' it's hard to grasp it again...
will keep trying.
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